When battling a mental health disorder the ability to say “f*ck the past, bring on the future” is extremely important because we often end up doing so many things that we later regret. This is especially true for people with BPD. One particularly bad aspect of BPD is later having the privilege of reflecting on all the bad memories of the past… and we usually have a lot. Dwelling on the past can feel like being stabbed repeatedly with a dagger with an added twisty motion.
These days I choose to focus my thoughts on the future. People often comment that I rarely talk about my past. Don’t get me wrong, I feel like I’ve dealt with my past as much I can through therapy and DBT exercises so it’s not that I’m avoiding it. And it’s not that I haven’t learned and grown despite of it. Ultimately though I choose to flip it the bird and move on! We can’t change the past, but we can change our future
Happy New Year! Hope it’s the best one yet!


Happy New Year, all the best in 2020!
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Thank you, Happy New Year to you!
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Happy New year! 🙂
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Happy New Year to you! 🎉💥
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Happy New Year and the best wishes to you!
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Happy New Year to you! 💥💃🏼🎉
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Happy New Year! 💜
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Happy New Year to you!🎈🎆 🍸🎉💥
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You’re welcome! 🎉🎈💕🤗
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Happy New Year, JoAnn!
As for the past, I do know yours includes the north and its companion, snow. Your present, and your future, features palm trees.
No fair, you’re putting your thumb on the scale!
(And that’s exactly the way to do it too, by the way.)
Here’s to that, and to enjoying every other advantage, in 2020!
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Life is a lot better with palm trees and sunshine 🌞
And good food, but then luckily you can have that just about anywhere.
Happy New Year to you! 🎇🎉🍸
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Love that! Sparkly things are my favorite. Thank you so much and I hope you have a great New Year! 💥 🎇
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Happy New Year
❤🥂❤
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Happy New Year to you 💃🏼🍸🌹
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Happy healthy New Year
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Happy New Year to you. I hope it’s the best yet!
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You are right, we can only change the future (and ourselves). All the best for 2020 from Denmark!
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Ah thank you. I hope you have a great New Year and that you are well and happy! 😃🎉
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Thank you, so sweet of you! 🙂
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Happy New Year, JoAnn!
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Happy New Year to you!
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Happy new year 💓
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Happy New Year to you! 💃🏼🙂
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Happy new year 🥂🍾🥂🍾☺️
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Happy New Year to you!! 🍸 🎉
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